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Since we like to use buzzwords, let's add another to the list: Empath Abuse!
It was only when I decided to start my healing journey that I noticed that the same people were using me as a dumping ground for their bad news and negative experiences. I would absorb their energy and project on to them all of my healing vibes only to be left drained and depleted. I would take months to recover and would not hear from these people but when I logon to social media, these people would be living their best lives with people they did not trust with their horror stories.
I didn't know what to call it. I didn't know how to describe how it made me feel because I know I am not jealous, a hater, or bitter so it wasn't until recently that I could at least put into words that I was no longer available to endure bad times with someone but not invited to tag along for the good. Shit, I would not even be informed that things had turned out well and that these folks were on the mend.
Unfortunately, when I care I am concerned. When I am concerned, I am considerate, and when I am considerate my empathic nature is activated. I not only feel what you feel but I've been told that people just FEEL better once they unload/discuss their issues with me.
I've silently removed myself from all equations and relationships that operate in this manner. I can't do it. I will no longer be the friend or loved one assisting through the bad times but not even considered when shit is going well. No, thank you.
No love lost either, I just opt out of that type of relationship with ANYONE. I also identify that those who truly love me understand how draining bad news is to me and they counter that information with good news naturally because they do care about my well-being. Those are the people that I allow access to my empathetic spirit.
The peace I've created does not leave me in pieces and that energy should be reciprocated.
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